The Rambam gives us a clear formula of how a husband and wife should treat each other. He must show her more love and respect than he shows himself, and she must honor him like a king. With that succinct advice, the Rambam summed up the very different needs of men and women. He needs honor; she needs love. Simple, isn’t it?

The challenge comes when the inevitable disagreements arise. No two people see things in exactly the same way, and a man and woman by nature have different perspectives on life. But disagreements need not spell disaster for a marriage. A successful couple bridges the gap by mutual respect. An unsuccessful couple just fights it out.

“My way or the highway” has no place in a marriage. And while we all know that, it’s easy to forget in the heat of the moment. By helping us develop an attitude of respect toward each other, this session hands us they key to prevent our disagreements from escalating into fights.

The feminist movement told the world that for men and women to be equal, they had to be the same, but the Torah tells us differently. “Ezer k’negdo” means equal. The couple stands facing each other; one is not lower than the other.

Whatever injustices the feminist movement sought to correct, it replaced them with a new set of problems, all stemming from the failure to recognize the differences between men and women. Perhaps the most important difference is in the way we communicate. Not only do men and women speak differently, they listen differently. In a marriage, that means each has to adapt to the other’s different style